Beauty in Battle


You don't need to stop fighting - you need to start fighting ...the right way.

We're here to show you the way.

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Beauty in Battle


You don't need to stop fighting - you need to start fighting ...the right way.

We're here to show you the way.

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Learn how to stop fighting against each other in a personal war but alongside one another in a spiritual battle.

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Jason and Tori Benham


After realizing they had been settling for mediocre in their first few years of marriage, Jason and Tori Benham decided to do something about their relationship. Over 20 years and four kids later, they have discovered keys to having an awesome marriage - insights they have shared with countless couples over the years. Now they're ready to share them with you. Through their book, seminars, and coaching, the Benhams are passionate about helping couples discover how fighting together draws them together.

Jason holds a Master's Degree in Christian Counseling and Tori is a certified Emotional Intelligence and Enneagram coach. They have been married for more than twenty years, have four children, and live in Charlotte, NC. 

The Tools You Need

To Build A Successful Marriage

Beauty in Battle will help you learn:

  • The number one relationship killer and how to stay away from it.
  • How to combat negative thinking toward your spouse.
  • The one key that will magnetize you to your spouse and your spouse to you.
  • How to win your love back when “you’ve lost that lovin’ feeling.”
  • Why there was a wedding crasher at the first marriage in history and how he showed up at your wedding too.
  • Lots more!
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Why Beauty in Battle?

We have discovered in our relationship that beauty results when we choose to no longer fight against each other in a personal battle but alongside one another in a spiritual war.

The problem in marriage is that we often fight the wrong battle. We wage war against each other rather than the real enemy - Satan. Many of us are not even aware of his desire to take us down. So we end up as adversaries rather than allies. Somehow, we buy the lie that we are enemies-while the real enemy wreaks havoc on our relationship.

We know what this feels like. In our first year of marriage we discovered that the things we once liked about each other didn't seem so likeable anymore. And in the years that followed it was more of the same. Arguments and fights became commonplace. Little did we know that that was the plan of the enemy all along: to get us fighting face-to-face against each other rather than shoulder-to-shoulder against him. This relational pivot kept us in the same rut over and over.

But then God woke us up! He put us on a path to discover how to use our struggles to increase the strength of our marriage-how to turn the fight into something that drew us together rather than something that tore us apart. 

We learned that we didn't need to stop fighting; we needed to start fighting ...the right way. It isn't a physical fight, but a spiritual one. Waging war together in the spiritual has drawn us together in the natural. 

Like us, many couples need to wake up to the real battle. The only way to discover the beauty in your marriage is to first be willing to enter the battle for your marriage. Maybe you and your spouse have not yet learned how you can experience power and unity by waging war this way. But as you walk through these pages with us, we'll show you how we did it. We'll give you the practical steps we took to turn conflict and quarrels into passion and purpose.

That's why we wrote this book, and why we have a heart to help couples. We want you to learn what we learned - how fighting together draws you together and how a battle-ready mindset can change everything in your relationship!


Founders of Beauty in Battle

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